Breaking the barriers…

In love, not expecting anything in return is a taboo.  Hypocrisy.

When you love someone, they say, you have to give your all and never expect anything in return.  We are human beings, we feel.  Oftentimes we may not be sensible individuals when it comes to love, but loving definitely means expecting to be loved in return.  Though we all have unique needs.  I may need appreciation, you may need material gratification.  I may need to be respected, you may need to feel important.  But one thing is sure, we expect to be reciprocated.

We all loved at our best and worst.  Personally, I can honestly say that I failed because I tried to deny myself of the reciprocation I deserve.  I always thought that giving off myself  entirely for the other, including his whims would make me love at my best and be loved in return.  I denied myself of the pleasure of being taken cared of, of being in a state of elation because you felt prioritized, of walking on high grounds because you’re respected, of maintaining your composure because you felt you’re every bit of a woman.  Unfortunately, most often than not, tables turn and you end up singing the song “Superwoman”

When you make someone your world, you’ve definitely dug yourself a pit-hole.  The next thing you know, you’ve buried yourself in it.  Oh but there is always a way out.  That is when you say NO.  No to saying that everything’s okay even if none is.  No to emotional torture or abuse. No to any harsh treatment, may it be in words or actions.  No to being a hypocrite!  We deserve to be loved according to how we love.  So getting otherwise is never fair.

Love and be loved. Allow your minds to be in sync with the callings of your hearts.

Stand your ground. Love yourself.  Know the limitations. Pray.

If you are taken for granted, say it.  If you felt disrespected, do tell.  Let your messages be heard.  Give yourself credit if you know you deserve that much credit.  Stop selling yourself short just because.  And never forget to pray.  Cut it with stubborness and let Grace flow in you.

Life is short and we only have it once.   There are no second shots at it.

So live, love, laugh.  But stay footed.

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A Delightful Respite…

I had such a delightful experience today.  And it all happened during a  1-hour break from work.

I went to a nearby office where I usually have my lunch when it’s impossible for me and elce to go to lunch together.  Let’s call her ate Belen.    Tapping softly at the door, I heard her voice which was somehow like talking to someone on the phone.  Just within a minute or two, she opened the door.  Ate Belen’s demeanor somewhat seemed unusual.  She was quiet and busy about something very important, very different from her happy disposition.  Without making much hush, I sat myself on one of their comfy leather chairs and started to take my late lunch.  I was trying to savor the taste of my two pieces chicken wings and a leg, all fried, while eavesdropping.   I was a bit concerned.  After a while, her face suddenly lit up and the tension i sensed a while back eased off.

So i broke the silence and asked her if she’d taken her lunch which she gaily replied to.  Then I asked her if she’s going home for Christmas.  She said no.  Until I blurted out something that overwhelmed us both.  I asked her if marriage ever crossed her mind. Ah, now i know the trick!

Topics about this universal phenomenon can really break barriers huh?!

She said yes, “in His own time”.  She said she can’t push herself way into love as much as she wants to.   I told her that risks must be taken for love to happen.  Then she told me, “the Lord knows the desires of my heart, I know He will give him to me, in His own time, after all, I am not in a hurry”.

That struck me – she strongly believes in God’s miracles.  She continued on to tell me stories about a couple who came from different worlds, got estranged for years, and yet still ended up together and are happily married now.  On that note, I asked, “will the Lord still give me someone I deserve?”.  Without any hesitation, she looked straight into my eyes and said, “the Lord knows your heart, and in God’s eyes, there is no small or great sinner when it comes to blessings”.  She continued on to say, “just delight yourself in Him, love will find you”.

These are God’s little miracles everyday.  Moments like these may, to some, get unnoticed, but to me, God continues to touch and move me especially at times when I least expect Him to.  God never fails to perk up my ordinary days!

I had to pack up and leave, so I bade her goodbye and left.

Hearing the clicking sound from the lock of that door, I smiled and said in the silence of my heart, “Thank you Lord”.